I bought an autobox 9K Anniversary (2L Eco) last December with 88k, intending to buy a manual. The auto box was so impresively smooth, and I don't drive my Saab for performance much more than 10% of the time, so decided why go for the auto instead. So, in answer to your questions:
The auto box should be v-smooth on the changes, with any distinct jerk to the change only noticable under hard accelleration. My local Saab maindealer (S-Wales) rekons that the auto-boxes are good for 150k miles. The technical guy at the Saab Owners Club (SOC) of GB, (who specialises in answering questions on faulty Saabs, and runs a Saab workshop), rekons they are v-reliable and good for 200k. In contrast, older 9000 manuals suffered master cylinder failure, and even newer ones are stilled plagued with pinion gear failure at milages much less than 150k - so an auto-box will avoid both of these pitfalls! Having said that, the auto-box is much more expensive to overhaul (but a 2nd hand unit is a cheaper option) should the need arise.
You will loose about a second off 0-60mph for the equivalent manual, and I find a drop in 2mpg typicall on 80mph motorway commutes. (I get around 30mpg). But if you do lots of town work, expect a lot less mpg - as is most torque converter power transfer loss occurs in 1st, 2nd & 3rd gears!
The cleaver thing is, 3rd gear has 75% torque lock, and 4th gear 100% torque lock, so no loss of transmission power occurs in 4th gear, hence 4th gear economy should be virtually equivalent to a manual.